The Place for Positive People

Had a Bad Day? I Had a Bad Day

I had a bad day, but not like this guys

…but Im going to be triumphant and work through the struggle of learning and maturing. Just because I had one bad day doesn’t mean I cannot learn from the experience, but still trust in myself. Sometimes people can make you lose sight of yourself because they want you to fear them and their little control mechanism. I know that I take my work very seriously and I want to succeed. We are all under a great deal of pressure to perform, but it is better to have leadership and encouragement than fear based managing and disconnected strategies that keep us going in circles.

Despite having a bad day, I still want what is right for the company to grow, but for my strategies to be most effective we need proper planning, cohesive action and integrated analysis. Anyway, whatever the case- I cant take the fear based managing, the talking out of two sides of your neck and the “you don’t get what I’m saying” themed reaction, which usually means “You’re so pointing out my bullshit right now- SHUT IT!” So basically, I call bullshit and you get defensive. See, that why I had a bad day!

Stay positive about the outcome of the outcome will be a lesson in the end.


Funny -Harlem Shake Dance Video and More

Its not a Harlem Shake Dance Video my friends, but heck are these some good videos about whats going down around the hood. Dudes are much more sophisticated than you think. First off you’ll get a chance to view some very interesting discussions between Shiest and lil dude in the hood. Then you will get a chance to see uptown Harlemites, who traditionally pull on L’s, take hits from the BONG. Lets get started, but again, sorry these aren’t Harlem shake dance videos… well actually I threw one in at the end for good measure. 😉

Not Harlem shake but Harlem take- the take on snitching:

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Now nobody would snitch, if we could all just take bong hits in the hood – Harlem rips it:

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Check it now, this may not be the most clear instructions, but clearly you have to be able to dance to do the harlem shake. This video is for mature dancers or peeps with rhythm only:

Now, I should hope that you all enjoyed these videos, even the Harlem shake dance video. I want to say how much I miss each of you, my friends, and those who traffic my blog space. I have been so positive through out these trying times, and cold winter. Even when things may seem challenging, my positive mind has helped me… and laughter too. So I wanted to provide these series of funny videos, from around the way where some of us stay. New York, and Harlem are holding strong, because we have laughter and bongs. 🙂

Stay positive and work on defining your definite chief aim in life. Laughter is power.

Have These People Gone Mad or Just Dumb?
October 17, 2008, 6:39 am
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Please watch this and tell me what is a first stringer? And ummm… then answer my survey regarding our future President:

At least one guy in this video has some f–king sense, which leads to my poll:

Stay posiitve, we can change!

McCain Stickers- Whos Gonna Make this a McCain Sticker
OMG this is the funniest picture I saw all week:McCain sticker

This is too funny- this should be made into a McCain sticker

Please make a funny McCain bumper sticker out of this!

Stay focused on change and change will come.

Top 3 Worst Favors Friends Are Expected to Do

After a chat with a co-worker of mine regarding his shi**y weekend, I said “Well why was it shi**y?” and he said “…because I had to help my girlfriends sister move!” Now, many of us know that moving in New York City during the humid summer month of July totally sucks, but to have to move someone else as a favor, is the WORST. This conversation made me realize that I need to exploit the three worst favors and flesh out why they are so terrible and imposing on friends.

Trust me, friends and folks, before you read on, do realize that I am both a favor asker, and a favor doer, so I am not a hater just because I want to speak the truth on the worst favors ever- these views and opinions are purely subjective to the favor in question, not my personal opinion, so don’t hate!

Top 3 Worst Favors Ever

3) Airport Drops and Pick Ups for Friends

Airport drop-offs require a payment in gas money

Airport drop-offs require a payment in gas money

WHY: Because your always asking your friend to get up early at some insane time and then expecting them to drop you off without a little toke, or some cash. Damb fools, they paid the toll, they got up early, and you didn’t give any gas money even though you asked if you should. You don’t ask if I want gas money, you just give it- LAMO! Finally, the worst part about airport drop-off favors, is that the person always thinks your available to pick them up too, like just because you dropped them off, you now have to pick them up. Hey friend, X that idea right out. I did my part- now get a new recruit to pick you up!

2) Helping Friends Move

Wow- this guy needs to ease of helping friends move!

Wow- this guy needs to ease up on helping friends move!

WHY: Well if I had biceps like that guy, then hell- I would move you without a hitch, but here’s the thing- MOST OF US DON’T. Just because you have to move, doesn’t mean I have to make time to help you. Just because we are friends doesn’t mean that I am your indentured favor provider. Furthermore, in all honesty, since you live in a 6 flight walk up, why don’t you do all of us a favor and just hire some people to help you move. I know just where to find you a good crew- typically hanging on the corner in large hordes waiting for work. Really, if moving you in the summer heat is something I owe you because were friends, then I am going to have to start rethinking our friendship because moving a friend is one of the worst favors ever. Thanks to all who’ve helped me move, and to those of you I helped moved, shut up if you think I didn’t do enough. Given the severity of this type of favor, your lucky I even helped- I have a job!

1) Lending money to a friend

Positive Pulse does not promote violence- So don't lend money!

Positive Pulse does not promote violence- So don't lend money!

WHY: Typically lending money to friends is a nice thing to do, and you should not be discouraged to do it, but if you decide to lend money, even to a good friend, BEWARE that it may lead to one of the biggest fights you two ever have. Lending money to friend is one of the worst favors ever when it ends badly because everyone ends up really pissed off. I remember a time I lent a friend, a good girl friend, some money to buy her Aunt a birthday gift. I used my credit card to do it because she couldn’t use hers, since it was her Aunt paying the cards bill. Anyway, it turns out she got the flowers to her Aunt on time, but of course when it came time to pay up- she did not pay me back without me having to ask. It was one month before I said “Hey, can I get that money for the gift I bought for your Aunt.” When it came time to ante up all hell broke loose. The thing is- I still didn’t learn my lesson and loaned this person money after that, thinking I was being nice or the bigger person, and guess what- I got sh*t on again. Lesson is now learned and lending money is totally out of the question for this person. Here are some rules for how to effectively win a fight over money!

All in all, these 3 favors are really nice to do and will make you the most valuable friend ever if you are rightly appreciated for them, but if you are not, then they can end up being 3 of the worst favors to ever do. Think about why you are doing the favor, if the person deserves the favor and what kind of impact the favor will have on your health and well-being if you decide to move forward and lend a helping hand. I am all for helping people, but not if is compromises my positive mind.

Stay peaceful, and make decisions that are good for you first and everyone, even your favorless friend, will be okay!

“Stop the Madness!”- thats what my girl Miss M would say
July 25, 2008, 5:02 am
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So these two fools can’t seriously think I care about this *hit- well dammit, I do

I have been settling for so long with the ill treatment by this person, and the crazy shit about it is every time we fight, then I rid the negative vibes and thoughts about this person and their issues from my life and the desire to assist them in getting better or help themselves (co-dependence behaviors?), I see positive results increase in my own life. Proven time and again, it seems that I attract new, healthier people and create stronger friendship networks with more positive and motivated like-minded people. But heres the question- how did my friendship with this person get so out of control- and last so long? Perhaps we are both too loyal- Yes- thats how, or is it!?! Just FYI: Libra and Sagittarius females are loyal.

My friendship with someone I care very much for, 13 years, has been in a real decline over the past few years. The friendship, although there has been some good, has seen many mud-slinging arguments that really date back much further- mostly after this person went through some serious stuff and I tried to the best of my flawed human ability to show them support. But here’s the thing- just because you’ve been homies with someone for a long time doesn’t mean you two are a good fit anymore, or healthy for each other. Sometimes, one of you takes the high road and changes their life and sometimes the other one accepts life and doesn’t take any road at all. What happens to the friendship then, you ask?


Well obviously you try to be a good friend anyway, right? Yes, of course, but correct me if I’m wrong- isn’t a friendship a mutual exchange– like we give and get from each other or there is some kind of mutual benefit we gain from the relationship. Here is the way I see it- correct me if this is far off from how you see friendships– One person gives to another person some love and that other person reciprocates with love, and if they don’t that is not an equal, or beneficial friendship, but if they do- the love grows. Of course, this “love” can be exchanged in many different formats- emotion, monetary, etc.

Look I’m not dumb- maybe blind– but not dumb- everyone fights sometimes, and sometimes people aren’t perfect, but it seems nobody is perfect, accept Webster- the dictionary guy ;). Anyway, since that is the reality, we do learn to accpet certain shit (a.k.a each others flaws) about people whom we love; shit that we would not accpet from people we don’t love. So if I love Eddy cause shes my tight homie, although we have history that makes us argue, but we love each other (plutonically :)), then why can’t I be cool with Betty and he and I not let that bullshit related to my history with Eddy affect our potential friendship? It is because when people that don’t know you see you act in a certain way toward other people- “behavior”- then they judge you? And then based on that judgment(s) they treat you accordingly? HMMMM!?!?!

I honestly can’t tell you why people move apart, but I can tell you that fighting and the blame game sucks, moreover it drains you of all your positive energy that you could be used on something else. The result is called static. I am just too old to worry about static, in any form; from gossip, to ‘he said she said,’ and on down to people who are just out for themselves, their own benefit, not the benefit of the whole. I am all about sustainability- no judgments, just living life.

It seems clear the difference between me and Eddy is that she is too worried about gain- the worlds problem- so I can’t blame her. In addtion the two of them, Eddy and Betty as they refer to each other (must be their evil sides way of communicating- mwahhahahha), do much face work to protect their image, which is the reason I believe they are so reluctant to admit when they are wrong, or at fault, or using a person like me. I see myself as a human just trying to move life in a positive direction- boy its hard and you need support in your circle to stay positive- like I said, nobody is perfect! So in effect I am reacting to their bullshit and abuse cause in my heart, I know they are not genuine friends, even though I wish they were. By the way kids, it’s okay to admit when your wrong.

Point is my positive people– don’t let yourself be fooled by those types of people, like Eddy and Betty who talk to you and kick it with you, but they are not always your “real” friend- sometimes they are just using you because they are lost. Do not get lost with them! Stay found- don’t get taken off your path for anything negative, no matter how much it looks like love. Believe in your heart- its the guide to the soul!

Stay positive always and positivity will persevere- too bad ya’ll two are too busy trying to perfect perfection, cause your missing out on reality, so as my real home girl Les would say, “Stop the Madness!

WNBA Brawl- Not so Nice Ladies
July 24, 2008, 4:10 am
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Wellowellowell… for all you boys out there who cant stand the WNBA, heres one reason to love it for the first time- WOMEN BRAWLING. The LA Sparks really let sparks fly this night. Check it out here at ESPN. The Detroit Shocks definitely shocked people in this game. Now since this is the blog for positive people, you have to ask, what does E make of this- well I say- FIGHT that B. No no no hold on, thats the old me talkin’!

The new me would say this- women despite our frustrations with each other, and situation and circumstance, we must always remain posie and determined in order to achieve the means to our end. We have to handle our anger with a positive attitude, even if it means setting aside our pride. Now, I gotta love my LA WNBA girls, since I’m born and raised a Cali girl, but really though, the Sparks did do the Shock pretty dirty.

Stay positive despite all anger if you wanna be a “Woman of Tomorrow(tm)!”